Every marriage is not meant to last forever. No matter what the reasoning behind the divorce, it is important to have legal representation for each side. I almost lost everything because my former spouse said that he was taking care of things and that he would be fair about how the assets were divided. It took several weeks for me to find out what he was up to. It was then that I hired my own attorney and got what I deserved. You should never attempt to go through a divorce without a lawyer working on your side. On my site, I have listed several of the issues that can get overlooked if you are inexperienced with divorce documents and proceedings.
Are you getting a divorce and worried about not getting a fair deal? Your spouse may be fighting everything that is being proposed in the divorce, and you may either want to prevent the divorce process from going on for a long time or avoid a lengthy legal battle. Here are some ways that you can ensure things are fair in your divorce.
Threaten To Take The Battle To Court
One potential problem you can run into with a combative spouse is that they want to get everything in the divorce, and will refuse to compromise. This is only possible because you have to agree to the terms of the divorce in mediation, which is why things can end up not being fair. A strategy that you can try is to threaten to take the divorce to trial because it is not working out in mediation. Your spouse will likely realize that all the decisions will be made by a judge, not the two of you, and things are much more likely to be split down the middle with decisions they are not happy with. Try the simple threat of going to trial and see what happens with their side of negotiations.
Isolate Key Issues
There are a lot of things that need to be decided on in a divorce. The best way to deal with these things is to isolate individual issues and come to a decision on them, then to move on and not come back to the issue. Do not allow your spouse to bargain on certain issues, because it will make things complicated. For instance, if you are having a dispute about the house, do not allow custody issues to be factored into any decisions that are made. Focus just on the house, then move on to custody.
Know What Things Are Not Worth Fighting For
It is a good idea to prioritize the things that you want to get out of a divorce, that way you know what issues are not worth fighting for in the end. If you are really set on keeping the house, that's fine, but know that you'll have to give in on other issues in order to get that item. Do not let your spouse know what those items are that you want to fight for, since they may use that against you as leverage during the divorce mediation process.
A divorce attorney can provide you with more help and information.